In reply to Deb.

Deb,

As a stepfather, and a stay-at-home dad, I understand the heart of your comment. However, in my experience, having more than one father is definitely, "confusing and detrimental to the child." I have had to watch my stepson cry while asking questions no child should have to ask... "Why doesn't daddy live with us?" "If my dad loves me, why did he leave me and mommy?"

It occurs to me that many children from adoptive families have the same sort of questions, "Why did my mommy abandon me, didn't she love me..?"

To somehow imply that having more than one father or mother is simply not harmful to the child is, at best, wishful thinking. My own experience goes even further into this subject. My stepson's father left his family to pursue a homosexual lifestyle. To say his life has not been confused or suffered detriment is sadly, just not the truth.

Perhaps your situation is an ideal one where all parties involved love and are loved, but, that is definitely not normal for a blended family. In most blended families confusion and detriment abound...