Thank you Mr. Hartung for your reply to the case presented. I can't help but think that this is another example of clergy with unhealthy boundaries and to emotionally attached to those he is called to serve. Its one thing to love your flock, but when you begin to claim their issues as your own...I would question if its time for a sabbatical or even possibly a change or reassessment of one's vocation. It would be interesting to know whether this pastor has a family of his own or is he single. If I were a betting man it sounds like he's single and serves in an isolated community (rural) with limited networking /professional outlet/resources. This also sounds like a topic that needs to be discussed and explored more in greater detail during one's vicarage or seminary training.